“It’s not the destination that matters, it’s the journey.” Though I’ve heard this phrase time and time again, I constantly find myself trying to speed up the “journey” so I can reach the “destination” in almost every part of my life. Quite honestly… I’ve never been patient enough to enjoy the journey. The journey is uncomfortable, and from it come uncomfortable things – like embarrassment. And disappointment. And fear. And failure. All of which are uncomfortable… all of which can be used either to my advantage or to my disadvantage. I find myself thinking over and over (with a voice of self pity and victimization), “why me?” Dale Carnegie once said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” This quote (and quotes like it) always stop me dead in my tracks, because they remind me that it’s not my circumstances or situations that determine my state of mind – it is ME. I may not be able to control what is happening around me, but I can control what I think about it. And that, in itself, is a powerful thought.